Couple & Family Therapy
We offer three different kinds of support for couples and families:
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1. Premarital consultation: If you are thinking about getting married and have things you would like to discuss before the marriage. It could be everything where to live, sex, if we get a son, should we circumcise him or not? Conversion by one partner if you are from different religions. Or this habit of your partner which is like a pebble in your shoe. Furthermore, Issues with in-laws are common. Many times small things gets blown out of proportion. The key is to learn how to communicate with each other. |
2. Couple check-up consultation & Couple relationship education: You come for a session or two and we discuss the health of your relationship. We look at your communication skills. it might need some tweaking. See it as similar to physical check-up. If your physician finds something early, it many times can be treated with a simple procedur, or modifications of some habits of yours and you are healthy again. If you ignore getting a check-up and wait until something really bothers you, it could become complicated... The same with relationships, problems usually do not go away by themselves, nip them in the bud! |
3. Couple & Family Therapy: Research show that the average couple waits six years to seek help after serious relationship problems first develop. Postponing help-seeking is a paramount factor because commitment to a relationship in trouble may weaken over time, and higher commitment is associated with the improved outcome from couple therapy. A troubled relationship has well-known negative impacts on the mental and physical health of adults and the health of children. Divorce and problems within the marriage are both linked with increased risk of emotional, behavioral, and academic difficulties in children. |
I specialize in Multicultural Couples:
You could be from different religions or and ethnicities which could complicate things further in a relationship.
Do Not postpone seeking help!
You as a couple or a family is a unique organization that serves to assist the members and block needed change. It means that your relationship could be reasonably good, but some things could be improved. The issues might stay unchanged for years or develop to something that becomes toxic to the relationship.
Remember, you always bring with you bits and pieces from your family of origin to your current relationship. Therefor some therapists say couple therapy doesn't exist; there are always other players or involved. As I have mentioned in other places, mental issues, psychological problems, or concerns are VERY stigmatic, especially among men. Even today in countries with high awareness of mental difficulties the shame to admit you, your relationship, or family would benefit to talk to someone is high.
In reality, it means "issues" get swiped under the rug, not until you keep tripping on them over and over again, or while climbing over them, risking spraining your ankles when you jump down. Do not let this happen; Everything is easier to deal with before it grows big — an analogy with going to the ER for physical problems. If people used the same logic as they do with psychological problems, the ERs would be almost empty. Few people would go there with a runny nose or a scratchy throat. A wast majority would only pay a visit if they accidentally cut off their hand and needed to get it reattached, or similar serious issues. This might sound extreme to you but think about it.
Unfortunately, it is a sad reality. If you have any problems, issues, it's always better to deal with them before they grow big, they are more manageable.
I have succeeded in staying married with the same woman (from a different religion, culture, and nationality) for 25+ years. I know, personally, it's far from easy to get a relationship to work year in and year out. AND it's even harder to get a relationship to work well. I'm able look out your window, put myself in your shoes, and walk at least a mile in them :)
You could be from different religions or and ethnicities which could complicate things further in a relationship.
Do Not postpone seeking help!
You as a couple or a family is a unique organization that serves to assist the members and block needed change. It means that your relationship could be reasonably good, but some things could be improved. The issues might stay unchanged for years or develop to something that becomes toxic to the relationship.
Remember, you always bring with you bits and pieces from your family of origin to your current relationship. Therefor some therapists say couple therapy doesn't exist; there are always other players or involved. As I have mentioned in other places, mental issues, psychological problems, or concerns are VERY stigmatic, especially among men. Even today in countries with high awareness of mental difficulties the shame to admit you, your relationship, or family would benefit to talk to someone is high.
In reality, it means "issues" get swiped under the rug, not until you keep tripping on them over and over again, or while climbing over them, risking spraining your ankles when you jump down. Do not let this happen; Everything is easier to deal with before it grows big — an analogy with going to the ER for physical problems. If people used the same logic as they do with psychological problems, the ERs would be almost empty. Few people would go there with a runny nose or a scratchy throat. A wast majority would only pay a visit if they accidentally cut off their hand and needed to get it reattached, or similar serious issues. This might sound extreme to you but think about it.
Unfortunately, it is a sad reality. If you have any problems, issues, it's always better to deal with them before they grow big, they are more manageable.
I have succeeded in staying married with the same woman (from a different religion, culture, and nationality) for 25+ years. I know, personally, it's far from easy to get a relationship to work year in and year out. AND it's even harder to get a relationship to work well. I'm able look out your window, put myself in your shoes, and walk at least a mile in them :)