It's easier said than done. Sometimes we do things and we rationalize it's the right thing to do. Deep inside, a gut-feeling or a deep emotional sensation telling us it's not the right decision.
My guru when it comes to psychotherapy is Irvin Yalom, an American psychiatrist and psychotherapist. In the past he lead group therapy for terminal ill cancer patients. Several patients told him that; It's too bad I have to be dying before I understand how to live life. And similar things when they reflected on the life they lived. I have thought long and hard on this myself and slowly making changes in my life. We all have habits which isn't good for us, meaning not ending or fixing idle relationships, and nurture others more, really looking into what we consider important to us, is it crucial or is it just a habit which tagged along and should have been terminated long time ago? During life we develop relationships that sometimes just idle, that's fine if all involved are happy with it. If one part wants more than the other it becomes a problem which could be nagging like a people in the shoe and eventually feel like a nail in the foot. If the latter happens the lid can fly off and one can become too emotional, loose control and things can be said in the heat of the moment. I advice you to deal with the problem, person when it's still "a pebble". Personally, I have couple of "pebbles" which I haven't attend the way I should, long overdue. Face it, it's not easy to confront others and the toughest one to confront is ourself, but sooner or later it's need to be done.
-All the best, Chris (Ironcouch.com)
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