2. Your Clothes
In the last post i talked about your weight and here I will address the way you dress.
Most of us don’t live in a nudist community. We need to put some type of clothing on. Do you dress the same as you did when you were twenty-one? A friend of mine who basically dresses as he was homeless, tagged along with another friend when he went shopping. The guy bought a jacket for $1100 and my friend said “that’s as much as I’m spending in ten years on clothes.” It’s probably true. Nothing wrong with it but “the book” gets judged by it’s cover and to read it again, and again (have sex) it could be nice to change it, to a more exciting one.
Like it or not, people judge the book by it’s cover. How do you dress? Do you have a job without dress code? Maybe you work in construction or at a hospital. Are you daily “uniform” a 10 year old t-shirt and a pair of old jeans or do you prefer to dress like Patrick Jane in The Mentalist, a three piece suit even if you don’t have to? Probably not. You might feel comfy to look like a Russian mobster, and wear a track suit. Not long ago my dear friend’s wife I mocked him because of his hobo looks. She said to him spontaneously “When you dress up it tingles in my stomach.” It tingles in my stomach, hm in other words, the turn on meter is rising.
Of course you shouldn’t wear cloths you don’t like but let it grow on you, slowly. Why not dress differently from time to time. Not the same staying home, going shopping or going to a party. Change, you can do that without being a snob. It’s a whole spectrum between hobo and snob. It just takes a bit of effort and people will start to notice.
Start out by buying couple of quality shirts, a blazer. Warning, if you don’t know where to start; material, style, colors bring a buddy with taste to help you out, or your wife. Begin to wear the new cloths when you going out with your wife for shopping or dinner. Dress up when you meet your pals for a beer or coffee. You’ll be pleasantly surprised of the reactions from the environment, specially your buddies girlfriends and wives. If your buddies belong to the same hobo club you DID the women will say something like with longing in their voices “I wish I could get him to dress like that as well” and then they sigh.
Your pales will of course give you a hard time and tease you, no one likes change. No worries, this is just temporary.
I belonged to a local hobo club until couple of years ago and the above reactions is what I experienced. I have to stress, if you decide to upgrade your wardrobe, buy things you really like and are comfortable wearing. Use some help to pick the right stuff if you’re not sure what you look good in. And if you have money, don’t be stingy, usually quality costs. I personally prefer clothes without brand name logos like the one with the sombrero wearing gardner on a donkey with a swinging rake in his hand or similar.
If you worked out for a while and developed broader shoulders and wider back than the average guy it could be a problem to find a blazer off the self that fits good. One way to do with this to get a bigger size. I usually buy a bigger size and “short” which has shorter arms and total length. If it’s getting to big around the waist it’s easy to adjust. Maybe your mother or mother-in-law is handy with the sewing machine. It doesn’t solve the problem entirely but it’s the best you can do without going taylor made.
Now, you need to take care of your new quality clothing. I suggest wash it your self, short cycle and at 30 degrees, low spin. Because most of the times you just need to wash out the sweat Do not wash your dress shirts with your kids muddy pants at 60 degrees for 1,5 hours.
I hope I got you something to think about, If you have a significant other in your life please discuss it with her.
... to be continued with part lll (and last)
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